Recently I was trying to explain how me and Mr TY have been left feeling after the last couple of years and found the ’empty nest syndrome’ the best way to do it.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m aware that it usually relates to mothers (or fathers) when their children head off to university/move out to live on their own.
We thought we would have children and thought that that was what we would be doing with our lives right now. And through all that trying we have lost our way career-wise. So now we find ourselves without those children, and without any direction or experience of a career we want to pursue. It’s our version of an empty nest.
Another way I describe it is like standing on the edge of a cliff. We were walking along a perfectly suitable path for many years but suddenly the path has bought us to an unexpected cliff edge, with no idea what is going to happen next. Theoretically we could fly, we have no ties, we could do anything we want, but we don’t know what we want. We weren’t expecting to be here so we haven’t given it much thought.
I know the answer is time but when you’ve got no idea what to do, time doesn’t feel like an answer.